The Most-Hated Parenting Advice

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When I was a new mom, it seemed like everyone had advice about parenting or babies or family life. Even though it stressed me out, I listened and I gave everyone the benefit of the doubt because I knew they only wanted to help me and see me thrive as a mother.

A visit to the pediatrician with my oldest led to a discussion about sleep habits and he stopped me in my tracks and said the most important thing any doctor has ever told me.

“Whatever works for you is the best way to do it.” Continue reading

A Reprieve From the Busy Back-to-School Season

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I have been counting it down since August 1. For 21 days, I checked my calendar once and then checked it twice. I posted cute notices on Instagram and Twitter in hopes that others would share in my excitement. This year, I was determined to be ready.

The school emails started in mid-July, and before we knew it, gone were the lazy days of summer back to school 2016 was upon us. In addition to supplies and clothes I needed to buy, I also needed to remember English AP homework, freshman orientation dates, and soccer training schedules. Despite the  extra stress we experienced last month.

Simply put, there are three times of the year that can wreak havoc in the lives of parents. August, December, and May will absolutely send you over the edge if you allow them – especially ifyou have more than one child. When Monday, August 22 arrived this year, I was estatic. Not because I was tired of the kids, I felt that I’d be able to slow down and catch my breath, if only for a moment.  Continue reading

Things I’ve Learned – Suggestions for Moms’ New Years’ Resolutions

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BY TRACEY CLAYTON

RESOLUTIONS FOR MOMS

 

Being a mother of three kids certainly puts you in a faster gear, and if you didn’t use to multitask before, you will certainly have to start. There are many of your children’s needs to be met, you need to take care of their physical, emotional and cognitive needs, as well as their play time. It can easily get overwhelming and stressful if you are not well organized and really know your priorities. We all learn as we go and we often need to change our course to make life easier for everyone. This is what I have learnt from my experience of being a mommy of three little girls.

Being lenient means trouble

We all know it is very difficult to be strict with your kids, especially if you are a mom and they make cute little faces at you. However, discipline is a must just because the lack of it can snowball into complete anarchy in your household. It is important to set rules, let the kids know these can’t be broken, and then apply reward and punishment accordingly. It doesn’t have to be harsh, but it has to be felt. For example, if one of the kids’ aggressive behavior is tolerated even a couple of times, soon the others will try to get away with it and you might end up with a little battlefield that’s out of control. Muster up the strength to be a good disciplinarian and cut problems at the root.

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Praise them more

Kids yearn for acceptance, approval and words of praise. We usually notice when they do something wrong and criticize them much more often than we praise them. Make a point of focusing on their accomplishments and good behavior as well. Also, when you praise one kid, try to think of good things to say about the other kids as well, in order not to make them feel less worthy. They take things personally, get jealous easily and think they are not good enough. When you say something nice about them, mean it.

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Use everything to instill values

It is easy to let your kids play on the computer, watch cartoons and movies. You can switch your brain off for at least a little while. I have allowed cartoon characters, princesses and superheroes to become the focus of my kids’ lives. However, I have been thinking about a good way to make this work to my advantage. I started thinking about the reasons these characters are good role models and I came up with some basic values I can teach my kids: they fight for justice, they protect the poor and the weak, they are always well dressed and there is a distinct difference between the goodies and the baddies. So now, before we take the kids to amusement parks or organize superhero parties, this is what we talk about: Spiderman is cool because he can fly, but he flies in order to help people in trouble, and that is why he is a true superhero.

Keep it simple

It seems that nowadays the parental role of a provider and caretaker has gained a new dimension – that of an entertainer. Never, in the history of the world, has there been a larger selection of toys, games and gadgets available for kids to play with, and never have kids been more bored with their lives. The more toys they have, the less entertained they seem to be. I have realized they are simply over-stimulated, so instead of buying more and more toys at a rapid pace, I have decided to cut down on buying toys for them. We donate the toys they don’t play with anymore and I don’t replace them with new ones. Instead, I let the kids get creative and come up with their own games. They draw, do crafts, they go outside much more, they sing and dance, they play with paper cups, pots and pans and the good old ball. I plan to continue moving in this direction.

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What our kids need most are our time, love and attention. No amount of modern gimmicks can replace quality time with your kids, and a good balance of love and discipline will give them a healthy and safe place to grow and develop. It is ok to keep it simple!

About author:

Tracey Clayton is a full time mom of three girls. She loves cooking, baking, sewing, spending quality time with her daughters and she’s passionate for writing. She is contributor on High Style Life and her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.” Find her on Facebook.

Did You Miss Monday’s Show?

I want to give a special thanks to Leslie Young of Fashion du Jour Daily for taking time out of her busy schedule to talk to us about holiday fashion for busy moms. If you missed the show live, no worries, just click on the image below and you can hear it.

Be sure to listen as we talk about holiday fashion for moms.

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Dear Moms, Surrender the Cape

 

Learn how moms to achieve a life balance

Dear Moms,

First, I want to warn you about this post. For those who know me in real life, it will come as a shocker.  Even if you just know me from this blog, it will come as a shocker. Because I am going to tell you something that a lot of people don’t admit. Today, I am here to tell you to take off the cape. And know that it’s okay.

The cape I’m referring to is the SuperWoman cape. It needs to come off now. Really, it does. And I’m sharing this because I’ve recently discovered that if I don’t take it off, there is a Higher Power in the universe that will snatch if off of me. And sometimes snatching can be a bit painful.

In July, I went to the doctor and he strongly encouraged me to make some lifestyle changes. I know I’m sugar-coating it, but if you want the sordid details, read this. Kind of felt like he snatched my cape. He did tell me to decrease the amount of stress in my life and let go of the things I needed to let go.

And I did that. Kind of.

You see, I did take a short leave from work. But as I was off work, I thought about all of the things I needed to do to at home. Like I made a super list. And I immediately began to accomplish things on that list. And I was proud of myself. Really proud.

Because I truly believed — deep, down in my heart — that letting things go at work meant keeping things going (and even getting ahead of the game) at home. But somehow I don’t think that’s what was supposed to happen.

Have you heard the saying “a hard head makes for a soft behind?” My head and my behind have first hand experience with it. A couple of weeks ago as I was accomplishing items on my super to-do list, I took a trip to the grocery store.

In my haste to enter the store and accomplish all the things I needed to get done that day, I tripped. And fell. Not a graceful fall, but a crazy-I-was-tangled-up in the shopping-cart-fall. That ended with a knot on my head, a sore behind, a swollen ankle, and a stiff knee.

Yep. All of this after the doctor told me to take it easy.

Once the shopping cart and I ended our brief affair and I made it home, I thought of one thing. “I am not SuperWoman. I need to sit down and stay sitting.” So I surrendered my cape.

And I’ve never felt better. Surrendering the cape makes me think about something realistically before I say yes. Surrendering the cape allows me to get a full night’s rest. And surrendering the cape allows to me to be okay with not doing everything. And sometimes it’s okay to no do anything.

Especially if hard heads and soft behinds are involved.

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