Tears of Sorrow, Tears of Joy: Struggles and Victories with Infertility

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From Toni:

In 1997 I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). I wan’t married at the time, but my doctor was quick to tell me that when I did get married,  if my husband and I decided to have children one day, we could run into some problems with infertility. I can’t really decribe the emotions that followed  other than to say it was all surreal. I knew that I wanted to have children, and being told so prematurely that it would be diffificult to conceive was difficult for me to hear.

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Here’s a photo of me with newborn baby Tyra when she was about 3 weeks old in 2001.

I was one of the lucky ones.

My PCOS did not prevent me from having children, but for many women who live with the condition, it can. PCOS is definitely not the only cause of infertility, but it is one that can make women explore other child-bearing options. Heidi Hayes is the CEO of Donor Egg Bank USA and wrote this post about the egg donor process.

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Take Action Facts About the Egg Donor Process

Mother Nature doesn’t always cooperate when it comes to having a baby. Many couples struggle to conceive for various reasons. Sometimes infertility is caused by disease, an infection, endometriosis, or another reproductive issue. Fortunately, couples who may have had no hope just a few short years ago now have many different infertility options to explore.  Continue reading

Is Blogging in Your Future This Year?

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As we bid farewell to  2016 and welcome 2017, many people think of goals and dreams for what the next 12 months will bring. This past December, I celebrated 10 years as a blogger. I started blogging because I’ve always loved writing and it was a way for me to express my thoughts about whatever I thought I should and could share.

That first blog was about being the wife of a police officer, a mom of three small children, life’s little emergencies and how we handled them. At the time, I thought I was being vulnerable when I wrote about one child having asthma and another one with an allergic reaction. Little did I know after one year of writing about those things, my world was about to explode in infidelity, divorce, emotional abuse, and those parenting dramas that have a way of bringing you to your knees.

Writing has always been my therapy. It wasn’t until I endured some heavy trials that I realized just how important writing would be. And blogging – this form of writing for internet as a digital journalist or new media specialist – has saved my life three times. Continue reading

Tweeting Through the Teen Years – #1

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I overheard this conversation the other day:

Child #1: Facebook for Mom and her friends is like our Twitter.

Child #2: You think? Maybe more like our Snapchat.

Child #3: No…Mom and her blogging friends are doing weird things on Snapchat. Stay with Twitter. {Disclaimer: By weird things, they mean take silly selfies with filters and torture  send them to our children.}

Child #2: Mom’s on Twitter.

Child #1: She’s on there, but Twitter moves so fast she doesn’t pay attention to what we do. Continue reading

Prenatal Vitamins: We’ve Come a Long Way Baby!

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I’m pleased to partner with Nakturnal on this post.

 When I became pregnant with my oldest nearly 17 years ago, the first thing I did after my first doctor’s appointment was run to the pharmacy and get my prescription for prenatal vitamins filled. Taking those rather large horse pills once a day was annoying, yes, but it was a badge of honor that I wore proudly as a mom-to-be. After I gave birth, my doctor suggested that I continuing taking the vitamins as long as I was nursing. Soon thereafter, I became pregnant again…and nursed again…and then become pregnant a third time…and nursed that baby too. In the summer of 2003, I was glad to relinquish the prenatal vitamins because they were a symbol of the past three years of pregnancies. I was happy to finally not be pregnant or nursing or taking vitamins that actually required a prescription. When I returned to work full-time, I stopped taking the vitamins and starting taking a regular multivitamin.

Note: I realize I’m dating myself, but prenatal vitamins did require a prescription way back then when they can now be purchased over-the-counter. To make it  more convenient, you can even purchase prenatal vitamins from Diapers.Com

While I’m sure that the multivitamin served its basic purpose for my postpartum body, I noticed something very quickly. I didn’t have as much energy, I saw more hair breakage than I had seen in several months, and routine blood tests revealed that I needed to take supplements for vitamin d, calcium, and low iron.

After my youngest was born, I ended up taking four vitamins a day compared to the one I was taking when I was pregnant. How ironic.  Continue reading