Let’s Pretend It’s 1990

Welcome to a two-part series sharing bits of advice and wisdom to college students. This post is a letter to my 18-year-old self from my 45-year-old self. Part Two focuses on the advice from a few of my friends. 

May the good life be with you
Down every road you roam
And may sunshine and happiness
surround you when you’re far from home
And may you grow to be proud
Dignified and true
And do unto others
As you’d have done to you
Be courageous and be brave
And in my heart you’ll always stay
Forever Young, Forever Young
Forever Young, Forever Young

                                                                                                        — Rod Stewart

It was June 13, 1990 and this was our senior class song. As I prepared to take my final walk across the stage at my school’s auditorium, I remember those lyrics vividly. We were and always will be forever young. If I could write my 18-year-old self a letter, I’d tell her to stay positive, remember the world is her oyster, and there’s absolutely nothing that she can’t do if she puts her mind to it.

Then I would look around to make sure my parents couldn’t hear me, I’d look her straight in her eyes, and I’d say, “while all of those things are true, you need to know some more important info. And sister, here it is.”  Continue reading

Mom’s Night In

Homemade vanilla milkshakes. Waffle fries. My Himalyan Salt lamp.

A Bible. My God. His Grace.

If you had to fight against your worst enemy, would you be prepared? Furthermore, would you even know who the true enemy is in the battle?

If you had to fight, would you take off your jewlery and pull your hair back, or would you arm yourself in prayer?

If I were in a fight, my human nature would tell me to take off my jewelry so I could scrap. What I really needed to fight was my bible.

I’ve mentioned before that this current season in parenting affords me more time alone than I’ve ever had before. With three teenagers in the house, their social calendars dictate time away from home. Ironically, even when they go out and have a great time with their friends, FOMO sets in and they always, always want to know what I did in their absence. Recently, I had a night alone and I stayed in for movie night, but I was armed and ready for war. Continue reading

The Day I Fell in Love With Hip Hop (All Over Again)

*Actual transcript of a text message conversation with one of my beloveds earlier this year.*

“Mom. Mom. Mom.

Mom, text me back.

Mom.

MOM.

J.Cole has announced his concert dates and will be in Dallas in August.

MOM.

I want to go.

MOM.

I need to go.

MOM.

I just left class to find my siblings and tell them.

MOM.

We need to go. Tickets go on sale this Friday.”

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If you’re wondering why there is no response from me in the transcript, it’s because there was none. In teenspeak, said child spammed me. This means the text message sender intentionally sent back-to-back to back messages and never gives the receiver the opportunity to respond. Spamming is a texting method used solely for dramatic effect. And when you know my family, you know that we all have a flair for the dramatic.  Continue reading

There’s More Than Just Now

I’m so excited to be a part of Brooke McGlothlin’s Gospel Centered Mom book tour! This post was inspired by her new book, Gospel Centered Mom. Click here to visit Brooke’s website and learn how to purchase her book.

It’s 10:00 pm on a Wednesday night. It’s summer and the kids are in-between camps and organized activities, so there’s no scheduled place to be in the morning. They are also hyped from the evening’s bible study and worship service at church. For them, the words bed-time are not within range.

“Mom, we’re going to have a midnight snack. You want some pancakes?”

Unlike them, I have to work in the morning but the idea of late-night pancakes sounded delightful.

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Women and Cars: No More Excuses!

 

One thing I’ve learned as a single mom is that I absolutely need to have some working knowledge about cars when I’m researching them for any purpose. I’ve written about my experience with changing tires, the need for roadside assistance, and the features on cars that are a necessity for me as a busy mom of three teenagers. The one place I can get all the information I need on all things auto is Cars.com. Continue reading