Three Simple Reasons I Celebrate Lent


Friends, why do conversations about religion have to be so….weird? Take this one, for instance.

“Toni, what is Lent?” It’s the season of preparation, fasting, and consecration of our hearts and minds during the 40 days preceding Easter. 

“I didn’t know you were Catholic.” I’m not, more than Catholics celebrate Lent.

“Like who?” Like Methodists. I was Methodist for about 15 years before I joined the church I’m at now. Lent is a thing in the Methodist Church.

“I don’t think you’re right, Toni. Only Catholics celebrate Lent.” I can also tell you that I grew up in a non-denominational church like the one I attend now. We celebrated Lent.

“No. You didn’t” Ummmm….okay. But I learned about it from somewhere and I think it was from my Mama.”

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Living in Community…Despite My Issues

I don’t need new friends.

I don’t want new friends.

I don’t even want to think about new friends.

I know, I am extrovert. I love people, and I get some of my best energy from those around me.

I’m also an only child.

I got used to being alone as a child.

I got used to doing things my way and being independent pretty early in life.

When I found my tribe, I was happy.

At the age of 45, that tribe is filled with absolutely amazing people.

They are totally amazing. From the college friends to sorority sisters to the people I befriended at the college where I began working at decades ago.

Again, they are amazing. All of them. And in all honesty, I don’t stay in touch with all of them as I should.

So on top of all of that, I don’t want to add to that group of already amazing people.

I don’t need new friends.

I don’t want new friends.

I don’t even want to think about new friends.

But God.

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The Best Time of the Day

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5:00 am

Every household has it and every family needs it. A time of the day where all of its residents are asleep or otherwise occupied (I have to say that disclaimer because #teenagers and their sleeping habits vary), and should you wake up, it’s thrilling to know that no one is physically or mentally able to look at you, talk to you, or expect anything from you.

Except God.

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Join the Launch Team For My New Book!

Guess what? I wrote you a book. Yes, really. It’s for you, your friends, your sisters, and any woman you know, especially if she ever gets discouraged by life. This woman who may be overworked, underpaid, and heartbroken. It’s even for the woman who sometimes questions God and doesn’t understand why certain things happen. Several years ago, when my family was going through a rough time, I learned that the most important part of my day is my quiet time with God. Cultivating that time has been essential to my life as a mother, a daughter, a friend, and a writer. My daily quiet time keeps me grounded amidst the chaos of the world around me.

Spiral and Squiggly: Living Intentionally When Life Isn’t Straight and Narrow is a 45-Day devotional that will enhance your personal and quiet time with the Lord. I hope that these quiet moments each day will do for you what they do for me…especially as I strive to live the life God had planned for me, rather than the one I’ve planned. Will you consider joining us in sharing the message?

Launch team members get one free electronic copy of the book and one free paperback copy of the book. You will also be invited to join our private Facebook community just for launch team members to share your own quiet time success stories.

The book officially launches on Sunday, May 13, 2018. I intentionally selected that date for two reasons: 1. It’s my 46th birthday, and 2. It’s Mother’s Day. Do I expect you to do anything specific related to the launch on Mother’s Day? Absolutely not. Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate yourself or the mothers in your lives. I’m launching the book that day because this is exactly how I choose to honor myself this year. I only ask that you participate in our Facebook community in the days leading up to the launch, share the book on social media a couple of times, and leave a review of the book on Amazon sometime during the week of May 14.

Oh, I almost forgot! If you have a blog and would like to participate in a blog tour about the book from May 14-May 18, that would be great too.

To join the launch team, complete the form below. The deadline to sign up is Sunday, March 11. Once your signup is complete, I’ll send you an email with further instructions on what comes next!

Let Me Introduce You to a Few of My “Friends”

When I was diagnosed with cancer five years ago, one of the things people asked me was whether or not I was really okay. I blogged about it, I shared my story with others as I was living through it, and I took advantage of the opportunity to spend more quality with the people I loved.

Ironically, during that time, I laughed more than I cried. I felt God’s presence from the very beginning so I was really okay. But my friends and family didn’t always think so…which is understandable. When someone you love is diagnosed, the word cancer brings out all kinds of emotions, and usually, sadness rings the loudest.

One of things that helped me get through that experience was reading. I read blogs regularly, and my favorite types of books to read are non-fiction – ideally faith-based non-fiction. As soon as I was diagnosed, I started subscribing to even more devotional emails than usual so my email inbox could be infused with a little bit of Jesus and inspiration throughout the day. Because the bloggers and authors were a part of my daily life, they helped me through the cancer experience. In my mind, though, they became my friends.

I saw a meme the other day that said, “I saw my boyfriend today. And by boyfriend, I mean the guy I have been internet stalking secretly for months. So today, in the spirit of that meme, I want to tell you about a few friends of mine who have actually made a huge difference in my life…most of them via YouTube.

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